Distinguish Your Unhappiness

Most of the times we take longer than normal to understand what we really want, well not knowing is one thing but knowing and not doing anything about it is a big problem. The first thing in a situation where we seem to be unhappy we should actually accept the fact of being unhappy. Now comes the question how to distinguish its existence, some problems that lead us to unhappiness are self created and others are not self created means they are beyond our control.

Let’s talk about the first one “ self created unhappiness”. It’s the most deadliest one, we create it and let it ruin our inner peace and hug it so tightly that it ceases the air from all sides. One very good example would be falling in love with someone who doesn’t care about you. Now how to overcome this feeling of being unhappy, I would be putting the strategy in 10 points

  • Write down what you want on a piece of paper, just write what makes you happy, ideally make a list, this would at-least give you a quantitative measure of what you like.

The unhappiness or sadness that is not not self created and we land into it without intending can be very questionable in its nature, as we haven’t created it and we have to go through it unwillingly. Example could be death of your loved one, some disease, loss of job or anything like that. How to over come this type of unhappiness? The best thing that would soothe yourself would be accepting it. When you accept something you are not denying. Although nothing much can be done to bring it to normal but still try your best to cope with it. Seek help, meditate, talk about it and remember you are not alone, when you realize that you are not the only one who is going through it, you actually pave a way of looking it from above. Identify the triggers that exaggerate it just try to avoid them as far as you can.

Whether you created it for yourself or you were being served with sadness, anxiety always remember you live once and if you are still breathing there is definitely hope, remember as you are sulking for something and shedding tears someone is taking their last breath in this world, so just value your existence and life given to you. Be gentle and kind to yourself in every situation, by loving yourself you will be in peace and you be at ease!!!

Thanks for reading!!!

If this helps you somehow comment your thoughts also, just by sharing things we can actually address many problems.



Writing about life relations Self-healing & love has been my greatest passion.

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Adila Qamar

Writing about life relations Self-healing & love has been my greatest passion.